I am a mother of 3 beautiful daughters! A 6 year old, a 3 year old (who is diagnosed PDD-NOS with a Sensory Processing Disorder, and a beautiful new baby girl named Hope. I started this blog as a way to share what is going on in my life and how we cope with what is going in our lives in a hope you could help, and maybe along the way I could help someone else!
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Gracie's first day of school
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
What pregnancy and mothering books fail to tell you!
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Uncle Sim
This is Granny, Jennings, and Edna Earl holding me when I was a baby.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Growing out of labels
Sunday, September 25, 2011
New additions in the Fiedler house!!!
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Achieve Center
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
School and lines
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Mommy's week off :)
Friday, August 12, 2011
Dr apts, school, and more!
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Activities for flubber!
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Flubber! Great sensory idea!
The S word?
Saturday, August 6, 2011
Trip to Pic N Save with a happy ending!
Friday, August 5, 2011
TGIF!
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Our visit with Congo, 8-3-11
On Wednesday we went to visit Congo. As you can see, he is growing! He was very hyper the first couple of minutes (which is definitely to be expected since he is ALL puppy still!) but then he quickly settled down. Grace had a pretty rough trip there, as soon as we were in the car she was asking to go home. Since it is a 1 1/2 hour car ride you can imagine how that went! She was pretty standoffish the whole time we were there, I got a couple cute pictures of her and him together. If you would like to see them, check out our facebook page Service Dog for Gracie. Congo had not seen Gracie in 2 months. I was expecting him to be very bonded with the family training him and not initially react to Grace. Well I was wrong! The INSTANT he saw her he ran to her and was all over her with kisses and climbing on her. Once he settled down she didnt really want anything to do with him, but he just watched her and went where she did! Even though I had the leash and I was the one petting him, he had his eyes on her the whole time! I followed her around with him for about an hour like this. At one point she was swinging on the playground, and he was laying on the ground just watching her. I am convinced he knows he has a special purpose in her life. God is absolutely showing me this is the right thing to do. Every time I feel worn down and find myself praying and asking God if I should continue on this path, the answer I get is an overwhelming yes! Some great things are happing with the fundraising (but that is a blog for tomorrow!). GOD IS GOOD! The trainer let me know after we left Congo howled when Grace was gone! I thought that was so cute. I am excited to update you on everything happening with the fundraising, but for now, I am off for some much needed rest!
Monday, August 1, 2011
Visiting Congo on Wednesday!
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Saturday night church service!
Friday, July 29, 2011
Food/behavior journal
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Here again, gone tomorrow.... here again!
Monday, July 25, 2011
Weisman Center visit
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Freezer meals!
Monday, June 27, 2011
Brat fry!
Monday, June 6, 2011
Puffin' Stuff
The Out of Sync Child Has Fun!
Saturday, June 4, 2011
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Day 3 of potty training
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Potty Training has begun!
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
The Cafe mom!
Monday, May 9, 2011
Yes, I can hear you!
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Congo- Our service dog!
Dear Family and Friends,
Many of you already know about the struggles we have faced with Grace, our youngest daughter. For those of you who don’t let me bring you up to speed. On October 23, 2008 we were thrilled to announce the birth of Grace Lynn Fiedler to our family! She was delivered safely and pronounced the picture of health, despite a scare during our pregnancy of a concern for Down’s syndrome. She had a little more than the normal illnesses as an infant, but seemed to be doing well. At around a year she began to talk, the sound of her voice was an amazing gift! She said several words, Mommy, Daddy, sissy, even our dog’s name Jersey! Then at around 14 months we began to see a drastic change in her. It was not uncommon for her to scream for up to 4 hours at a time, rolling on the floor flailing her arms and legs and banging her head on the ground. At first we attributed it to a strong-willed child. When it began to happen daily, we sought out advice from our pediatrician. Nothing seemed to help. She stopped talking, and everything was beginning to be a battle. She started to walk and I hoped this would alleviate some of her frustrations. It didn’t. Our lives were becoming an emotional ride of happy and angry moments with her, we never knew what to expect and were always bracing ourselves for the next meltdown. At 18 months she still had not regained the speech she had lost. We were seeing repetitive behaviors that when we tried to stop, she would become extremely upset. We had certain ways we had to do everything with her. I was working as a line therapist for the Wisconsin Early Autism Project. My supervisor recommended I have her tested. I thought, “She doesn’t have autism though”, but I went ahead with it. We met with them when Grace was around 20 months old. Looking at her through their eyes I was surprised at how many signs I had not noticed. Their diagnoses came back PDD-NOS with a Sensory Processing Disorder. Not completely convinced, we went to the Weisman Center in Madison. They are very well known for the research and work with autistic children among many other things. Their diagnoses came back the same, PDD-NOS and Sensory Processing Disorder.
So what is PDD-NOS? It is called Pervasive Developmental Disorder- Not Otherwise Specified. This is a form of autism. When diagnosing autism there are certain criteria that need to be met, a set number of symptoms need to be met from different categories. In some instances, children show several symptoms but for some reason (often because of age) they are unable to meet certain criteria (such as social aspects, a 2 year old is too young to meet these qualifications). In these instances where they show some classic signs, they are given a diagnosis of PDD-NOS. There are no two autistic kids that are alike. It is a spectrum disorder, and kids can fall anywhere on the spectrum. In Grace’s case, the autism is considered moderate.
Sensory Processing Disorder is a lesser known disorder. It affects a lot of children with autism, but it is also just as common in children without autism. It is when children are unable to appropriately process what goes on around them. Some children seek more sensory input while other children shy away from it. At some point we all have a little of this, in children with a disorder, they have a very hard time being comfortable in their own skin. There are many different examples a person can give. In Grace’s case, she seeks more input. Some of the behaviors we see in her are her hitting herself repeatedly, or hitting others. Biting people or things, or putting everything in her mouth to try to satisfy a stronger than normal oral need. She has low muscle tone which makes her “floppier” than normal; she will sometime just fall over when walking trying to get some input. She doesn’t have a good concept of what is considered safe. She will jump of a bench with no one to catch her, then continue to repeat the action despite the fact it may hurt her. She will get out of sorts and have no ability to calm herself down. In some kids what would be a minor temper tantrum can turn into a 2 hour fit of screaming, throwing things, hitting herself, throwing herself in walls, on the floor and a list of other things.
When we first learned all this, we took all the right steps; she is heavily involved with birth to 3 with a speech therapist who sees her on a weekly basis, as well as an occupational therapist who meets with her on a weekly basis. We applied for the state waiver program that allows us to receive funding to get her ABA therapy (Applied Behavior Analysis therapy, so far considered one of the most effective therapies). In the meantime we were pretty much on our own to try to figure out where to go from here. It was a lot of trial and error. Something that helped her one day would not help the next. Some days were full of screams and fights and others were great! We recently found out that we were not approved for assistance. This was a big blow to us. I am home with her on a daily basis so I see the impact that this is having not only in our lives, but also in her development. I feel the pain that Emma (her 5 year old sister) goes through when Grace out of nowhere meltdowns while they are playing.
I recently heard about service dogs for autistic children. I was intrigued and started doing some research. I was astounded by what I learned! I was reading testimonials from other families who had gotten service dogs and how their lives were before. I felt like I was reading our story on there! I was amazed at the progress I was hearing kids made. After doing some research, I came up with a place I felt would best suit our needs. Compassionate Paws, Inc is a company located in Wisconsin and is only about 45 minutes from our home.
So how will a service dog benefit us? When Compassionate Paws trains a dog they are trained in basic obedience, public access, behavior redirection, deep pressure, and boundary training. Behavior redirection is necessary when an autistic child is engaging in a behavior we want to stop, but by pointing it out you can often encourage instead of discourage the behavior. An example for Grace of this is called stimming. This is an act that can help to calm a child down or get a child more worked up and lead to a meltdown. In Grace’s case, she does what is called pressure stims. The more she does it, the closer to a meltdown she is. When we tell her stop, it only encourages her to do it more. We use redirection instead, which interrupts her behavior and engages her in something else without ever directly addressing the behavior. The dog would do this by asking to be petted, placing a paw on her, or a similar action. How our dog will do may be different, the cue is specific to the dog and taught during training. Children with sensory issues often benefit from deep pressure activities. This could be being “squished” by a pillow, or laying under a weighted blanket, the dog will also be able to lay down with her to help her calm down in stressful situations. Boundary training is where we will be alerted if Grace leaves our house, or when we are out in public if she goes to take off we can give the command, “Grace stop!”, and that will signal the dog to lay down which will stop Grace. This is especially important to us as this is a growing problem we are having. Several times, Grace has tried to run into parking lots, or has gotten out of our house, and this is a big fear for us!
Other benefits a service dog can provide for her is a decreased sense of anxiety, better ability to separate from parents, it can be used as a tool to encourage her to talk to people, less meltdown, an increase in self-confidence, and the list can go on and on! We feel at this point we are stuck in a sort of rut with her. When she is with us, we are seeing lots of improvements, unfortunately, it is only when she is with family at home, or with her small group of trusted people, that we see these improvements. We are hoping that by getting her a service dog we can help her break out of her shell with other people as well.
So where do you come in? The goal we need to reach is $9,000.00 for this dog. It’s a lot of money! Once we have our dog approved, we will begin fundraising for the money. If you are receiving this, I am hoping that you will be willing to help us out. We will be looking for help in many ways (not just monetary!), if you are interested in going on this journey with us, you can e-mail me at jennfiedler82@yahoo.com with your contact information and I can get in touch with more ways you can help!
Monday, April 18, 2011
So much to say, so little time!
Friday, April 8, 2011
Service dogs for autism?
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Rough day!
Monday, April 4, 2011
Are you lactose intolerant?
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Time to take out the tonsils!
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Vaccinations and Autism
The first thing to address, is when did people start believing vaccinations caused autism (specifically it is the MMR vaccine that is thought to be the culprit). The MMR vaccine was introduced in the United States in the early 70's. It was not until the Wakefield study was published in 1998 that people connected the vaccine and autism. The study involved 12 children. 12 children and the world changed their minds! In 2010 it was proven that Wakefield faslified his study (several studies have tried to recreate his findings and been unable to, this is the test of a hypothesis, can it be recreated?). The study actually stated that the MMR vaccine had a correlation between a bowel disease and autism. The MMR allegedly caused both. People picked up on the autism part of it (not even the bowel part that was included in the study.) People began to be paranoid we had an autism epidemic! The reality is, there has not been an increase in autism. What has increased is the criteria that needed to be met.
It used to be that autism a diagnoses only given to severe cases (I am using this info from a lecture with a woman who has worked with autism for over 30 years. She has her Ph.D. and is an educational psychologist) such as kids unable to communicate who had severe autism the image you get of kids who rock and handflap all the time. It was then changed in the 40's when Aspergers was first diagnosed. It was not added to the DSM (diagnostic and statistical manual) until the DSM IV came out. Then later, PDD-NOS was also added. We havent increased the number of kids with autism, we have simply increased the circle of kids who fall in it. This is not a bad thing. Children with autism simply come from a different mold, why force them into a mold they dont fit into! If changing your parenting style can solve a lot of kids behavioral problems, why not do it? Why force a kid in a mold they dont fit?
So how do we know a kid with autism didnt get it from a vaccine? The brain of an autistic person is different from birth. They have more white matter, more short connections (within one hemisphere of the brain) and fewer long connections (which connect the two hemisphere and share information to each other) without making this even longer, this explains a lot behavior we see in autistic kids. Most likely a child with autims shows signs from birth, but we dont recognize them until we realize the social factors (which start to show between ages 1-3 also when they receive the MMR vaccine). You may notice your childs gross motor skills (why yes, my child sits alone, crawle, etc) but we often dont look at social skills in young children. I can look back at my daughter now, and realize there were problems before she was even a year old!
I feel very strongly on this topic. I beleive every person needs to make the decision to vaccinate their child based on their own study and beliefs. We dont answer to people, we answer to God. It is my desire, though, for peopel to find accurate information to back up their decision! We did spread out our vaccinations with Grace, but mostly because she doesnt have a strong immune system and was often sick. With Emma, she got them all at the scheduled times. What are your views on vaccinations?
websites used for this:
www.wikipedia.com
http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro98/202s98-paper1/Taverna.html
http://www.webmd.com/brain/autism/news/20060816/autism-affects-childs-entire-brain